Merry Christmas to one and all as we celebrate the birth of Christ. I’m thinking of the strength + courage of Michelle Obama’s hope this morning, as chronicled in the New Yorker. In the midst of church, presents, food and family, it’s worth the read.
Coach your ‘inner critic’ and step into your greatness
As we go into the new year I would like you to think about giving something up. I don’t mean the extra biscuit, glass of whine or that toxic friend. I mean something closer to home.
My challenge to you is to give up letting your ‘inner critic’ rule you. You know that voice, the one who gets you to be smaller than you are and gets you to play it safe.
Susan Brady who works with women leaders, provides in this short video, a good basis from which to start giving up the tyranny of your ‘inner critic’. Susan asks us to coach your ‘inner critic’ rather than let it coach you. Her top tips in this video are:
- Give up perfection and get comfortable with being imperfect
- Vulnerability is ok too, make it ok for others to be vulnerable too
- Know your enough, right now, as you are
- Separate worthiness (what you are born with) from confidence (which comes from action)
- Know that the more you engage, the louder the critic will become- strengthen your courage
My message to you as 2015 draws a close: don’t make yourself small, go big in 2016.
Enjoy the video.
In my third article on inspiring woman this month, I am excited to introduce my interview with Kelly Marie Hamon- a dynamic trainer. When I first started talking with Kelly and getting to know her, I was stuck by her passion and energy. I just had to get to Kelly to share her journey . Kelly has an amazing story of courage, strength and inner wisdom. I hope you are as inspired as I am.
A brief background
I taught many years within the community before becoming a professional teacher in 2004. When I was a young child I was diagnosed with a learning disability. I’ve just learnt differently than others. My challenges have made me a dynamic instructor/trainer. I have a unique perspective on learning and have been able to assist many people who were falling through the cracks.
When I was a young child I was diagnosed with a learning disability in English (reading/writing) and Math. I often joke; ‘English isn’t my first language’. I could not read until 8 th grade. No one believed I would be able to get through high school. I remember hearing my mother cry to her friend about my disability and her concern for my future.
When I was 14, I attended an early morning program in the L.D.S. Church.That year they were reading the New Testament. I wanted to be able to read like everyone else was, this is what I call positive peer pressure. So every night I tried, and prayed to be able to read…this went on for quite a while with marginal success until one day I found I was able to read the scriptures by myself. I went on to get an Associates Degree, a Bachelors Degree and then a Masters Degree.
Your journey to become a trainer and the obstacles you overcame
My mother was always supportive, she always told me I could do anything I set my mind to. In my first student teaching experience, the teacher in charge was very critical. The experience was terrible. Thankfully a dear and sweet teacher gave me rave reviews and gave me tons of opportunities–-she trusted and believed in me and built me up.
I thought I would be seen as a fraud if anyone knew about my disabilities because I continued to see myself as stupid. Some days I still struggle, specially if I’m stressed. It wasn’t until 2014 that I began to openly talk about my disabilities, listening to my inner voice and my extremely supportive husband -I felt it was time. My students positive responses gave me the courage to tell my story/struggles to others–-it’s been freeing to finally be open about that part of me.
Lessons you would tell your younger self
My top 5 lessons are:
- “You are not your disability”
- “Believe in yourself”
- “Walk through the fires of fear because you have plenty of gifts to share and bless peoples lives with”
- ”Realize your disability will help you understand others”
- ”Listen to the supportive voices of friends and family and stay away from people who would bring you down”.
Hopes/goals/exciting news for the future
I started my business this year–-I teach small business owners, entrepreneurs and educators how to use social media effectively. Find out more here:https://twitter.com/KellyHamon
My ultimate goals is to be on stage, talking to 1,000 people and getting them to do things they never thought they would be able to do. I also want to become a philanthropist like my friend , who believed in me and my abilities to become a trainer.
I hoped you enjoyed!
This is an insightful video about Claire Conner McCaskill’s leadership journey.This isn’t a post about her political positions. This is a video about a women chronicling her career and, the lessons she learnt along the way. A lawyer by training, Claire was the first women to be elected to the U.S. Senate for Missouri in her own right. What I found most striking about her story was the importance of confidence in yourself:
- tackle gender inequality in your workplace
- develop your authentic voice
- take risks
- get comfortable with being challenged and, challenging others
- hold power in balance
- get comfortable with making mistakes
Enjoy! Let me know your comments below.
Sound guidance in this video. Don’t internalise negative feedback, find the lesson and move on. Perseverance is key.
Be strong, be courageous!
I went to this talk by Lazlo Block in May, quite some time ago (sorry, I tweeted but forgot to blog). It was a close call between seeing Lazlo and going to a gender lecture. In the end, I decided to go to the talk where I knew least about the speaker- to learn new ideas.
I wasn’t disappointed. Lazzlo was full of ideas about work. He is the VP for People Operations at google, so Human Resources. He had a lot to say about his own journey, getting to google and where google is going next. All chronicled in his book Work Rules.
A hugely likeable and charismatic speaker, (he once worked as an actor), but don’t let that fool you, he had some hard hitting messages. My favourites were:
- work really hard. not hard, but super hard. that will cover most things
- work with the best and learn all you can, so you can work hard some more
- leadership is about others not you
- but know why you want to lead, what contribution you want to make and be authentic.