Why you should show up, imperfections and all.

 

Over the years, in my practice of private coaching, I have seen how the mind can trick us out of our dreams.

We have all heard that inside voice: ‘If it’s not perfect I can’t do it’… ‘I only meet some of the competencies, so  I can’t apply’.

Within all of us, I believe is a purpose. It doesn’t have to be professionally based it can be social, creative or family-focused.

Either way, I’m always blown away by the power of having a purpose. A purpose is a source of inner conviction. Our inner purpose, helps us show up for what we think is important to us, imperfections and all.

Want to take massive action and stop dreaming of a purpose and actually get one? Find out more here.

Until the next time!

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Speak up for what you believe in

 


This is the first of a three week series on women speaking up. To kick off, the Atlantic Business Magazine in Canada is spotlighted.

The leading business mag released an awesome January issue. I say awesome! It was an all women cover.

This created a  twitter backlash and and some pretty negative comments.

Despite this, Eleanor  Beaton, who was on the cover, spoke up with strength and courage about what she believes in- which is us. Women leading.

It’s a short clip and well worth the watch. Click the pic.

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From dark can come light

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Hello, its the first day of summer. I hope your enjoying the good weather. This is a quick post this week. I attended the Women of the Year Lecture recently, and was introduced to the most amazing woman. I was quite embarrassed that I had never heard of her, given all that she achieved.

Dame Stephanie Shirley had quite a challenging upbringing, having fled Natzi Germany during the war, she  was taken in by a British family, arriving with her siter as a refugee. She suffered great loss as an adult with the death of her only child. There were challenges in business as well for her. So much so, she used the name Steve in business correspondence.

Shirley achieved many things despite these setbacks. She became one of the pioneering female coders in the 60s , her company was responsible for coding the Concorde’s black box. And, when she floated her company she made many of her employees, alongside herself, millionaires.

I’m highlighting Shirley not only because of the amazing things she has achieved in tech, but because  her story of challenges were equally important in forming who she became and what she achieved for herself and for other women. Her courageous, and heartfelt discussion was very moving and I recommend her book, check it out here.

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3 Steps to tackle your limiting beliefs

IMG_0782 So, how are you? Done something scarey recently? Well  up until last month, its been a while since I have done anything truly scare. But in April, I bit the bullet, I met and overcame a challenge.Thats me on the left, getting into Manhattan for the first time. As a nervous  flyer who always wanted to go to the big apple, I was going to have to tackle my limiting beliefs. That’s exactly what I did. I flew 9 hours from London to JFK, via Shannon. Why the long way round? I wanted to support myself and process immigration  in Ireland- it makes the journey much easier.

 

A bit of nerves in the immediate run up, but it was well worth it. Manhattan was all it was said to be. Fast, big and, had to be experienced first hand.  I went to Harlem, Wall Street, the United Nations, Central Park, Fifth Avenue and the Lincoln Center to name a few places. It was just amazing. Eating out was fab and the people so friendly.

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That got me thinking about transformational leadership. When your leading others, you  are usually you taking people through a change that while worth it, is totally scary, like flying for a nervous flyer. Remembering the emotional side of change is key. This is what I learnt; CBS:

  • Consistency, once I decided to go, I paid the ticket straight away.  There was no going back!
  • Benefits: I focused on what I was getting at the other end of the flight,  I really ramped that bit up. I spent  a lot of  time thinking about what I was going to gain. 
  • Support: I softened the  parts of  the challenge where I could. I flew business class and made immigration smoother. 

How have you challenged yourself recently,  and what lessons has that provided you with supporting others through change? I would love to hear from you in the comments box bellow.

 

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The power of women’s leadership

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A big thank you to Stephanie, Eleanor and Rosie.  It was an honour to chair a panel of amazing women leaders on International Women’s Day 2106.

It was an electric night, with plenty of candid conversation about our leadership journeys. This wasn’t about leadership theory, but how we are trying to make a real difference for others, our challenges and vulnerabilities. The inspiring communities that we worked with featured prominently, they had inspired us all.  The Q and A was fantastic.  The audience were really engaged during the Q and A. It  was an inclusive, open and honest dialogue.

 

 

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A bit more about the amazing women:Rosie Freeman and Eleanor Barrett are Co-Directors of arts organisation and social enterprise The Brick Box .  Eleanor has been the Director of the Bradford Playhouse, and Development Manager at Shunt Events Ltd. She has also devised and delivered arts participation programmes for people with entrenched substance misuse lifestyles. Rosie has produced work at the Shunt Vaults, LIFT, and managed projects for Penguin Books UK, Pearson Publishing, abd written for The Independent. She has supported Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy courses at the London Buddhist Centre.

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Stephanie Busari, Founder and Curator of TEDxBrixton   Stephanie Busari is a content strategist with 15 years experience working with some of the world’s leading publishers. She’s currently a digital editor at CNN.com where she has worked for the past seven years. She is also the founder and curator of TEDxBrixton. She has won several journalism awards including a Peabody award. Stephanie is storyteller who is passionate about giving people a voice and helping them tell their stories.

 

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WOMEN: New Portraits Annie Leibovitz

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After queuing for over an hour, we finally got in. While very busy, the portraits were stunning. Above are a couple of shots. If the exhibition comes to a city near you, do try and see them. You will get a chance to see photos from one of the most iconic photographer of our age.

The exhibition kicked off in London and will be shown in  Tokyo, San Francisco, Singapore, Hong Kong, Mexico City, Istanbul, Frankfurt, New York and Zurich.

I was quite taken by what to me seemed to me to be a study of women’s leadership. The photos showed women who lead at the grass roots, in the social sciences, politics, business, science, arts and philanthropy. Really powerful stuff.

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Kelly Marie Hamon- the power of courage

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In my third article on inspiring woman this month, I am excited  to introduce  my interview with Kelly Marie Hamon- a dynamic trainer. When I first started talking with Kelly and getting to know her, I was stuck by her passion and energy. I just had to get to Kelly to share  her journey . Kelly has an amazing story of courage, strength and inner wisdom.  I hope you are as inspired as I am.

 

A brief background

I taught many years within the community before becoming a professional teacher in 2004. When I was a young child I was diagnosed with a learning disability. I’ve just learnt differently than others. My challenges have made me a dynamic instructor/trainer. I have a unique perspective on learning and have been able to assist many people who were falling through the cracks.

When I was a young child I was diagnosed with a learning disability in English (reading/writing) and Math. I often joke; ‘English isn’t my first language’. I could not read until 8 th grade. No one believed I would be able to get through high school. I remember hearing my mother cry to her friend about my disability and her concern for my future.

When I was 14, I attended an early morning program in the L.D.S. Church.That year they were reading the New Testament. I wanted to be able to read like everyone else was, this is what I call positive peer pressure. So every night I tried, and prayed to be able to read…this went on for quite a while with marginal success until one day I found I was able to read the scriptures by myself. I went on to get an Associates Degree, a Bachelors Degree and  then a Masters Degree.

Your journey to become a trainer and the obstacles you overcame

My mother was always  supportive, she always told me I could do anything I set my mind to. In my first student teaching experience,  the teacher in charge was very critical. The experience was terrible. Thankfully a dear and sweet teacher gave me rave reviews and gave me tons of opportunities–-she trusted and believed in me and built me up.

I thought I would be seen as a fraud if anyone knew about my disabilities because I continued to see myself as stupid. Some days I still struggle, specially if I’m stressed. It wasn’t until 2014 that I began to openly talk about my disabilities, listening to my inner voice and my extremely supportive husband -I felt it was time. My students positive responses gave me the courage to tell my story/struggles to others–-it’s been freeing to finally be open about that part of me.

Lessons you would tell your younger self

My top 5 lessons are:

  1. “You are not your disability”
  2. “Believe in yourself”
  3.  “Walk through the fires of fear because you have plenty of gifts to share and bless peoples lives with”
  4. ”Realize your disability will help you understand others”
  5.  ”Listen to the supportive voices of friends and family and stay away from people who would bring you down”.

Hopes/goals/exciting news for the future

I started my business this year–-I teach small business owners,  entrepreneurs and educators how to use social media effectively. Find out more here:https://twitter.com/KellyHamon

My ultimate goals is to be on stage, talking to 1,000 people and getting them to do things they never thought they would be able to do. I also want to become a philanthropist like my friend , who believed in me and my abilities to become a trainer.

I hoped you enjoyed!

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