The benefits of being a breadwinner AND a caregiver


What is is about

This video is a personal account by Anne-Marrie about making tough choices between success in her career and success in her home life. This is a heartfelt video of personal insight in prioritising what is most important.

Why is this different

Anne- Marie  takes the personal and makes it political and uses her own personal experiences to re-define for her,  the feminist narrative.  Anne-Marie challenges the notion of equality between men and women in the workplace as simply women accessing the same jobs as men. Don’t get me wrong, she values this as an important goal in its own right. However, she feels and, I must say I agree- real equality is wider than this. Real equality as she defines it is about  a range of choices weather its to work, be a home maker or be both. All choices should have equal value.  She says and I also agree again, we need to ‘make caregiving cool for guys’. Men that stay at home, women that stay at home or those that go to work or all number of combination that is right for each family should hold equal weight. This is a worthy call to action.


How this will help

This  video is thought provoking as it challenges us to conceptualise caregiving in a different way. She points out some interesting observations that are relevant and important in a modern high speed networked  global workplace:

  • Individuals who are breadwinners and who are also caregivers are more resilient, have greater empath, greater creativity and have a wider range of contacts
  • Organisations with family friendly polices have more engaged employees at work, they are more loyal and have less stress
  • Economies that have the highest level of family friendly practices and infrastructure  (e.g Norway, Sweden and Denmark) rank high on the OCED global competitiveness league tables

This is some interesting and important food for thought- enjoy!


Returning to work after children, is it just about the money?

What the evidence tells us

Work is the primary source of income for most people,and,  for some,work is just about the money. This is not only natural but ok.  Did you also know, work is generally good for you? Yes, it helps you meet your basic needs of food, shelter and warmth. It does much, much more than that  according to some recent research.  If your are thinking about returning to work after having a child, you might be interested in an independent review by the Department of Work and Pension. The report revealed two interesting facts to help us think about the broader benefits of work:

  • work is central to identity, social roles as well as  social status;
  • your economic status is also linked to physical and mental health and  life expectancy

But there is a caveat, the quality of work is crucial. The  job has to be in a safe environment  and you need to have accommodating boss, for work to be good for you.

If you want to read a bit more about the research, you can find a short overview  here.  If you want to read the whole report press on this link here.

Do you have any personal success stories and experiences that you would like to share about returning to work, you can do so in ‘share your story section’.

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